A woman has more right to look at her future husband than a man does. Also, marry your sisters and daughters to handsome, pious men.
1. Muṣannaf, ‘Abd al-Razzāq Kitab an-Nikah 6/158, it is mentioned thatUmar ibn al-Khaṭṭāb (may Allah be pleased with him) said:
(فيعمد أحدكم إلى ابنته فيزوجها القبيح الذميم إنهن يردن ما تريدون
‘One of you goes and marries his daughter to a repulsive and ugly man, but indeed, women desire what you desire!'”
2. In Kashshāf al-Qinā‘ [5/10 ], the authoritative Hanbalī view on this issue is stated:
والمذهب: أنها تنظر إلى ما عدا ما بين سرته وركبته. وإن كان المراد أنه يسن فهو إنما يتمشى على قول الأكثر
According to the (Hanbalī) school, she may look at everything except what lies between his navel and his knees.
3. It is mentioned in Takmilat al-Majmū‘ [16/139]
يجوز للمرأة إذا أرادت أن تتزوج برجل أن تنظر إليه، لأنه يعجبها منه ما يعجبه منها، ولهذا قال عمر – رضي الله عنه –: ((لا تزوجوا بناتكم من الرجل الذميم، فإنه يعجبهن منهم ما يعجبهم منهن
“It is permissible for a woman, if she wishes to marry a man, to look at him, because she is attracted to him just as he is attracted to her.
This is why ‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: ‘Do not marry your daughters to an unattractive man, for indeed, they (i.e., women) are attracted to men just as men are attracted to them.'”
4. In Nihāyat al-Muḥtāj [6/183] it is stated:
، وتستوصف كما في الرجل
She may also request a description of him, just as a man may request a description of her.”
5. Ibn ‘Ābidīn said in his marginal notes in Radd al-Muḥtār [6/37 ]:
إن المرأة أولى من الرجل في النظر،)).
“The woman is even more entitled than the man to look (at the potential spouse).”
6. Ibn al-Jawzī – may Allah have mercy on him – stated in Ahkam al-Nisa page 305
((أنه يستحب لمن أراد تزويج ابنته أن ينظر لها شاباً مستحسن الصورة، لأن المرأة تحب ما يحب الرجل
“It is recommended for someone who intends to marry off his daughter to choose for her a young man of good appearance, because a woman desires what a man desires.”