Ibn Uthaymeen rahimahullah Vs red pill men.
Contents
1. Those Who Hate Women.
2. Impotent husband
3. A wife wants to pay zakaah on her jewellery and husband says you shouldn’t as it is not obligatory.
4. Can a woman see men without desire.
5. The hadith A righteous woman is better than a thousand unrighteous men is weak but the meaning is sahih.
6. Oppression of some mother in laws.
7. Can mother in law go to the room of her daughter in law when she is absent? And can she take whatever she wants from her room? And she says this is the property of my son.
8. Treat the wife the way you want your daughter to be treated.
9. It is obligatory for a husband to obtain his wife’s consent before engaging in coitus interruptus (Azl), pulling out before ejaculation.
10. When Parents Marry Daughters For Their Own Benefits.
11. Can a woman deny his rights because he is not fulfilling her rights.
12. Is a woman sinful if she refuses her husband when he calls her due to a temporary psychological state or illness?”
13. Showing compassion to those with shattered hearts.
14. Spreading joy to others is a desirable act.
1. Those Who Hate Women.
He said:
فكل إنسان يكره النساء ويعاملهن المعاملة السيئة ففيه شبه من أهل الجاهلية
So, anyone who hates women and treats them poorly bears a resemblance to the people of the pre-Islamic ignorance.
Fatawa Noor al al darb 2/24
2. Impotent husband
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said
فإن ادعت امرأة عُنَّة زوجها ، (وأقر بالعنة ، أو ثبتت) عُنَّته (ببينة) . قال في المبدع: فإن كان للمدعي بينة من أهل الخبرة والثقة : عمل بها .. (أجّل سنة هلالية) … (منذ ترافعه) …
(فإن مضت) السنة (ولم يطأ ؛ فلها الفسخ) …
: If doctors decisively confirm that the man will never regain sexual ability, then waiting a year has no benefit and only harms the wife, so annulment should be granted immediately.
(al-Sharh al-Mumti‘ 12/207)
3. A wife wants to pay zakaah on her jewellery and husband says you shouldn’t as it is not obligatory,
The shaykh replied she don’t have to obey him at all even is he is angry, he said:
أحدهما : أن نقول : وليكن ذلك ؛ لأن غضبه في رضى الله ليس بشيء .
والجواب الثاني : أن نقول : تداريه ، يعني : أخرجي الزكاة من حيث لا يعلم ، وبهذا تؤدين الزكاة الواجبة عليك وتسلمين من غضب الزوج وتنكيده عليك .
لكن نحن من هنا نخاطب الأزواج نقول لهم : اتقوا الله ! ما دامت الزوجة ترى الوجوب لا يحل لكم أن تمنعوها من أداء الواجب .
1 – We say: Let him be angry, for his anger is nothing in comparison to the pleasure of Allaah.
2 – We say: be diplomatic towards him, i.e., pay the zakaah in such a way that he does not know. Thus you will have paid the zakaah that is required of you and you will be safe from your husband’s anger.
But with regard to this matter we say to the husband: Fear Allaah! So long as the wife thinks that it is obligatory, it is not permissible for you to prevent them from paying zakaah.
Jalasaat Ramadaaniyyah 1412 AH, question no. 5.
4. Can a woman see men without desire.
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen said:
نظرة مجردة لا شهوة فيها ولا تمتع فهذه لا شيء فيها على الصحيح من أقوال أهل العلم ، وهي جائزة لما ثبت في الصحيحين ( أن عائشة رضي الله عنها كانت تنظر إلى الحبشة وهم يلعبون ، وكان النبي صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يسترها عنهم ) وأقرها على ذلك .
Simply looking with no desire or enjoyment; there is nothing wrong with this according to the correct scholarly view, and this is permissible because it was proven that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) watched the Ethiopians when they were playing in the mosque, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was screening her from them, and he approved of her doing that.
فتاوى المرأة المسلمة، اعتنى بها أشرف عبد المقصود، ج2 ص973.
5. The hadith A righteous woman is better than a thousand unrighteous men is weak but the meaning is sahih.
Shaykh Muhammad Bin Saleh Uthaymeen said:
نعم ضعيف لكن معناه صحيح الحديث يقول: ( المرأة الصالحة خير من ألف رجل غير صالح ) ؟
الشيخ : أي نعم، إن كان هو غير صالح أي: فاسد فساد مطلق هي خير من مليون رجل، وإن كان ليس مثلها في الكمال فلا يصح هذا القول.
Sheikh: Yes, it (the hadith) is weak, but its meaning is sound. The wording goes:
“A righteous woman is better than a thousand unrighteous men.”
Questioner (cont’d): Is that what it says?
Sheikh: Exactly. If the man in question is truly unrighteous—that is, utterly corrupt—then she is indeed better than a million men. But if he merely falls short of her level of virtue, then the statement does not properly apply.
Sharh Bulugh al Maram, Kitab al Tahara , (Link of the audio in the comments)
6. Oppression of some mother in laws.
Ibn Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
وإلا لكان بعض الوالدين يأمر ولده بما يضره ولاسيما الأمهات، الأم إذا رأت من ابنها أنه يحب الزوجة صارت الزوجة كأنها ضرة لها بعضهن يصرح يقول: إما أنا أو هي
“Some parents would order their son to do something harmful (for his married life), especially mothers. If a mother sees that her son loves his wife, she considers the wife to be a harm to her, and some of them explicitly say: ‘It’s either me or her’.”
(Fath al-Jalil wa al-Ikram, 6/286)
7. Can mother in law go to the room of her daughter in law when she is absent? And can she take whatever she wants from her room? And she says this is the property of my son.
He replied it is not allowed as it is her privacy and warned her to refrain from oppression because Allah says:
﴿وَالَّذِينَ يُؤْذُونَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ بِغَيْرِ مَا اكْتَسَبُوا فَقَدِ احْتَمَلُوا بُهْتَاناً وَإِثْماً مُبِيناً﴾. وربما تكون أذيتها لهذه المرأة سبباً لفراق الزوج لها، فتكون بمنزلة السحرة الذين يتعلمون من السحر ما يفرقون به بين المرء وزوجه، ثم إنها في هذه الحال، أي في حال تسلطها على زوجة ابنها بغير حق تكون ظالمة، وللزوجة أن تدعو عليها؛ لقول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم لمعاذ بن جبل حين أرسله لليمن قال: «اتق دعوة المظلوم فإنه ليس بينها وبين الله حجاب». ولتعلم هذه الأم أنها إذا ظلمت ودعت المظلومة عليها فسيجب الله دعوتها ولو بعد حين. ربما لا يكون الدعاء مستجاب بسرعة لكن لابد من نصر المظلوم الذي لجأ إلى الله ولو بعد حين.
“As for those who hurt believing men and believing women without their having done anything (wrong), they shall bear the burden of slander and a manifest sin.” (al Ahzab verse 58).
And perhaps her oppression of this woman may lead to her son divorcing her, and she would be like the sorcerers who learn magic to separate a man from his wife. And in this case, she would be an oppressor, this poor daughter in law will supplicate against her, as the Prophet peace be upon him said to Muadh bin Jabal while sending him to Yemen:
“Be afraid, from the curse of the oppressed as there is no screen between his invocation and Allah.” (Sahih al Bukhari no. 1496)
And this mother should know that if she oppresses and the oppressed woman prays against her, Allah will answer her prayer, even if it is after a while. Perhaps the prayer may not be answered quickly, but the oppressed who seeks refuge with Allah will surely be victorious, even if it is after a while.”
(Fatawa Noor ala al Darb 2/24)
8. Treat the wife the way you want your daughter to be treated.
Ibn Uthaymeen said:
ثم اعلم أن معاملتك لزوجتك يجب أن تقدر كأن رجلاً زوجاً لابنتك، كيف يعاملها؟ فهل ترضى أن يعاملها بالجفاء والقسوة؟ الجواب: لا، إذاً لا ترضى أن تعامل بنت الناس بما لا ترضى أن تعَامَل به ابنتك، وهذه قاعدة ينبغي أن يعرفها كل إنسان.
“Then know that your treatment of your wife should be like a man’s treatment of his daughter, how would he treat her? Would you be pleased if he treated her with harshness and cruelty? The answer is: No. Therefore, do not treat other people’s daughters in a way that you would not want your own daughter to be treated, and this is a rule that every person should know.”
[Ash-Sharh Al-Mumti (12/381)]9. It is obligatory for a husband to obtain his wife’s consent before engaging in coitus interruptus (Azl), pulling out before ejaculation.
Ibn Uthaymeen said mentioned the reason:
، ثم إن في عزله بدون إذنها نقصاً في استمتاعها ، فاستمتاع المرأة لا يتم إلا بعد الإنزال .. وعلى هذا ففي عدم استئذانها تفويت لكمال استمتاعها وتفويت لما يكون من الأولاد ، ولهذا اشترطنا أن يكون بإذنها .
withdrawing (private part) without her permission diminishes her pleasure, because the woman’s pleasure can only be completed after ejaculation. So not asking her permission causes her to lose out on pleasure and on the possibility of having children. Hence we state the condition that this may only be done with her permission.
From Fataawa Islamiyyah, vol. 3, p. 190.
10. When Parents Marry Daughters For Their Own Benefits.
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen said:
فالذي يظهر لي أنه من الناحية الانضباطية في الوقت الحاضر ، أن يُمنع الأبُ من تزويج ابنته مطلقا ، حتى تبلغ وتُستأذن ، وكم من امرأة زوّجها أبوها بغير رضاها ، فلما عرفت وأتعبها زوجها قالت لأهلها : إما أن تفكوني من هذا الرجل ، وإلا أحرقت نفسي ، وهذا كثير ما يقع ، لأنهم لا يراعون مصلحة البنت ، وإنما يراعون مصلحة أنفسهم فقط ، فمنع هذا عندي في الوقت الحاضر متعين ، ولكل وقت حكمه .
What is clear to me is that, due to contemporary ethical standards, a father should absolutely be prohibited from marrying off his daughter before she reaches the age of puberty. Moreover, her consent should be mandatory for any marriage arrangement.
There are many women who were married off by their fathers without their approval. Later, when they realized the situation and faced mistreatment from their husbands, they pleaded with their families for divorce even threatening self-harm if their pleas were ignored. This happens frequently because families often prioritize their own interests over their daughter’s well-being.
In my view, this practice must end. Modern times demand modern rulings, and every era has its own ethical standards. [Sharh Saheeh al Bukhari, Kitab al Nikah Chapter 39]
11. Can a woman deny his rights because he is not fulfilling her rights.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen may Allaah have mercy upon him said:
“In brief, these words that were mentioned in the Hadeeth are general, but they are restricted to the husband fulfilling his wife’s rights. If he does not fulfill her rights, then she is entitled to demand her rights and deny his rights in the same manner that he denies her rights; Allaah says (what means): {So whoever has assaulted you, then assault him in the same way that he has assaulted you.} [Quran 2:194] Allaah says (what means): {And if you punish [an enemy, O believers], punish with an equivalent of that with which you were harmed.} [Quran 16:126]” [End of quote] [Taken from Islamweb]
12. Is a woman sinful if she refuses her husband when he calls her due to a temporary psychological state or illness?”
Sheikh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy on him, said
“يجب على المرأة أن تجيب زوجها إذا دعاها إلى فراشه ، ولكن إذا كانت مريضة بمرض نفسي لا تتمكن من مقابلة الزوج معه ، أو مريضة بمرض نفسي ، فإن الزوج في هذه الحالة لا يحل له أن يطلب منها ذلك ، لقول النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم : (لا ضرر ولا ضرار) وعليه أن يتوقف أو يستمتع بها على وجه لا يؤدي إلى ضرر”
“It is obligatory for a woman to respond to her husband when he calls her to the marital bed. However, if she is unable due to a temporary psychological condition or illness, the husband may not demand it in that state, according to the Prophet’s ﷺ saying: ‘No harm and no reciprocating harm.’ He must refrain or engage with her in a manner that does not cause harm.”
—Fatawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (2/660)
13. Showing compassion to those with shattered hearts.
Shaykh Ibn uthaymeen Rahimahullah said:
“We should be gentle with those who are broken-hearted, i.e., those who have suffered some pain and are distressed. This breakage is not of bones, but of the heart is broken. Just as someone’s business collapses, or a loved one or friend passes away, and their heart shatters! In any case, empathy is essential for such individuals, which is why Shariah has introduced the concept of condolence (ta’zeeyat).”
Sharh Riyaadh al-Saaliheen by Ibn Uthaymeen (3/80)
14. Spreading joy to others is a desirable act.
Imam Ibn Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:.
إدخال السرور علی إخوانك من الأمور المطلوبة ، لأنك تفرحهم وربما یکون من جزائك عنداللہ أن یشرح صدرك دائما ، فإن اللہ یجاري الإنسان بحسب عمله فإذا کان دائما یدخل السرور على إخوانه ويؤملهم ویفرحھم جعل اللہ تعالی صدره منشرحا ومسرورا دائما
“When you bring happiness to your brothers, you will be rewarded by Allah, who will always keep your heart filled with joy and delight. Allah treats a person according to their deeds. If someone consistently brings happiness to others, Allah will keep their heart filled with joy and happiness.”
Reference: Taliq ‘ala Sahih Muslim, 2/786