25 Authentic Narrations from al‑Targhīb wa‑al‑Tarhīb by al Mundhari on spending on Wives, Daughters, Sisters and Female Relatives. To claim otherwise is just misinformation and it’s hate.
Contents
Encouragement to Spend on Family
1. Hadith 1951: Greatest reward is spending on family
2. Hadith 1952: Best spending is on family
3. Hadith 1953: Reward for spending on wife
4. Hadith 1954: Spending on family is charity
5. Hadith 1955: Feeding oneself and family is charity
6. Hadith 1956: Priority in giving to family
7. Hadith 1957: Spending on family is charity
8. Hadith 1958: Priority in spending (self, wife, children, servant)
Reward for Providing for Family
9. Hadith 1959: Striving for family is in Allah’s path
10. Hadith 1960: Spending on relatives is charity
11. Hadith 1961: Divine help is proportional to one’s responsibilities
12. Hadith 1962: Gifts to family are charity
13. Hadith 1963: Reward for giving water to wife
Warning Against Neglecting Family
14. Hadith 1964: Angels pray for givers and against misers
15. Hadith 1965: Sin of neglecting dependents
16. Hadith 1966: Accountability for one’s household
17. Hadith 1967: Leaders are responsible for their flock
Virtue of Raising Daughters
18. Hadith 1968: Raising daughters shields from Hellfire
19. Hadith 1969: A mother’s sacrifice for daughters leads to Paradise
20. Hadith 1970: Raising two daughters ensures companionship with the Prophet (ﷺ) in Paradise
21. Hadith 1971: Kindness to daughters guarantees Paradise
22. Hadith 1972: Raising two or three daughters protects from Hell
23. Hadith 1973: Good treatment of sisters or daughters leads to Paradise
24. Hadith 1974: Spending on daughters or sisters earns protection from Hell
25. Hadith 1975: Supporting daughters ensures Paradise
al Hafiz Mundhari said:
Section 5: Encouragement to Spend on One’s Wife and Family, Warning Against Neglecting Them, and What Has Been Reported Regarding Spending on Daughters and Raising Them Properly
(Al-Hafiz said):
“This has already been discussed in the ‘Book of Charity’ under the chapter ‘Encouragement to Give Charity to One’s Wife and Relatives and Preferring Them Over Others.'”
Hadith 1951 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“A dinar (gold coin) that you spend in the cause of Allah, a dinar that you spend to free a slave, a dinar that you give in charity to a poor person, and a dinar that you spend on your family – the greatest of them in reward is the one you spend on your family.”
Reported by Muslim.
Hadith 1952 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Thawban, the freed slave of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“The best dinar a man spends is a dinar he spends on his family, a dinar he spends on his horse in the cause of Allah, and a dinar he spends on his companions in the cause of Allah.”
Abu Qilabah (a narrator) said: “He began with the family.” Then he added:
“What man can earn a greater reward than one who spends on young children whom Allah protects through him, or benefits through him, or enriches through him?”
Reported by Muslim and al-Tirmidhi.
Hadith 1953 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqas (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said to him:
“You will never spend anything seeking thereby the Face of Allah, but you will be rewarded for it – even what you place in your wife’s mouth.”
Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Hadith 1954 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Abu Mas’ud al-Badri (may Allah be pleased with him), from the Prophet (ﷺ):
“If a man spends on his family seeking reward (from Allah), it will be counted for him as charity.”
Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim, al-Tirmidhi, and al-Nasa’i.
Hadith 1955 – (Authentic)
Narrated by al-Miqdam ibn Ma’di Yakrib (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“Whatever you feed yourself is a charity for you, whatever you feed your child is a charity for you, whatever you feed your wife is a charity for you, and whatever you feed your servant is a charity for you.”
Reported by Ahmad with a good chain.
Hadith 1956 – (Sound and Authentic)
Narrated by ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ud (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“The upper hand is better than the lower hand. Start (giving) with those who are under your care: your mother, your father, your sister, your brother – then the next closest, and the next.”
Reported by al-Ṭabarāni with a good chain.
Hadith 1957 – (Good)
Narrated by Abu Umamah (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“Whoever spends on himself in order to remain dignified and independent, it is charity; and whoever spends on his wife, his children, and the members of his household, it is charity.”
Reported by al-Ṭabarānī with two chains, one of which is good.
Hadith 1958 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him):
One day, the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said to his companions:
“Give in charity.”
A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have one dinar.” He (ﷺ) said:
“Spend it on yourself.”
The man said, “I have another.” He said:
“Spend it on your wife.”
The man said, “I have another.” He said:
“Spend it on your child.”
The man said, “I have another.” He said:
“Spend it on your servant.”
The man said, “I have another.” He (ﷺ) replied:
“You know best what to do with it.”
Reported by Ibn Ḥibbān in his Ṣaḥīḥ.
Hadith 1959 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Ka‘b ibn ‘Ujrah (may Allah be pleased with him):
A man passed by the Prophet (ﷺ), and the Companions noticed his strength and energy. They said:
“O Messenger of Allah! If only this were used in the path of Allah!”
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“If he went out striving to provide for his small children, then he is in the path of Allah.
If he went out striving to support two elderly parents, then he is in the path of Allah.
If he went out striving to earn for himself to remain chaste and self-sufficient, then he is in the path of Allah.
But if he went out to boast and show off, then he is in the path of Shayṭān.”
Reported by al-Ṭabarānī with authentic narrators.
Hadith 1960 – (Good)
Narrated by Jābir (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“Whatever a man spends on himself, his children, his family, his relatives, and his close kin – it is counted as charity for him.”
Reported by al-Ṭabarānī with many supporting narrations.
Hadith 1961 – (Good)
Narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“Assistance from Allah comes in proportion to one’s burden (expenses), and patience comes from Allah in proportion to the calamity.”
Reported by al-Bazzār with reliable narrators.
Hadith 1962 – (Good)
Narrated by ‘Amr ibn Umayyah:
A man bought a cloak and gave it to his wife. When asked about it, he said he gave it in charity to her. The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“‘Amr has spoken the truth – whatever you do for your family is charity upon them.”
Reported by Abu Ya‘la and al-Ṭabarānī with trustworthy narrators.
Hadith 1963 – (Good)
Narrated by al-‘Irbāḍ ibn Sāriyah (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“Indeed, when a man gives his wife a drink of water, he receives a reward.”
Reported by Ahmad and al-Ṭabarānī.
Hadith 1964 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Every morning, two angels descend. One says: ‘O Allah, give a replacement to the one who spends,’ and the other says: ‘O Allah, bring ruin to the one who withholds.’”
Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Hadith 1965 – (Good)
Narrated by ʿAbdullāh ibn ʿAmr (may Allah be pleased with them both):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“It is enough of a sin for a person to neglect those whom he is responsible to provide for.”
Reported by Abū Dāwūd, al-Nasāʾī, and al-Ḥākim.
Hadith 1966 – (Sound and Authentic)
Narrated by al-Ḥasan (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (ﷺ):
“Indeed, Allah will question every shepherd (leader) about his flock—whether he protected them or neglected them—even a man will be asked about his household.”
Reported by Ibn Ḥibbān in his Ṣaḥīḥ.
Hadith 1967 – (Sound and Authentic)
Narrated by Anas ibn Mālik (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“Indeed, Allah will question every shepherd about what he was entrusted with—whether he preserved or neglected it.”
Reported by Ibn Ḥibbān in his Ṣaḥīḥ.
Hadith 1968 – (Authentic)
Narrated by ‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her):
A woman came with her two daughters, seeking charity. ‘Ā’ishah gave her one date, which she split between her daughters. The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Whoever is tested with daughters and treats them well – they will be a shield for him from the Fire.”
Reported by al-Bukhari, Muslim, and al-Tirmidhī.
Hadith 1969 – (Authentic)
Narrated by ʿĀ’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her):
A poor woman with two daughters was given three dates. She gave each daughter one and was about to eat the third when they asked for it, so she split it between them. The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Allah has made Paradise obligatory for her because of them, or freed her from the Fire.”
Reported by Muslim.
Hadith 1970 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Anas (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Whoever raises two daughters until maturity, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with me like this.” (He joined his fingers.)
Reported by Muslim, al-Tirmidhī, and Ibn Ḥibbān.
Hadith 1971 – (Good)
Narrated by Ibn ʿAbbās (may Allah be pleased with them both):
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
“No Muslim who has two daughters and treats them well will enter Paradise because of them.”
Reported by Ibn Mājah and Ibn Ḥibbān.
Hadith 1972 – (Good)
Narrated by ‘Awf ibn Mālik (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“No Muslim who has three daughters and spends on them will have them as a shield from the Fire.”
A woman asked: “What about two?” He replied: “Even two.”
Reported by al-Ṭabarānī with supporting narrations.
Hadith 1973 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Abu Sa‘īd al-Khudrī (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Whoever has three daughters, or three sisters, or two daughters, or two sisters, and treats them well—for him is Paradise.”
Reported by al-Tirmidhī, Abū Dāwūd, and Ibn Ḥibbān.
Hadith 1974 – (Good)
Narrated by Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her):
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Whoever spends on two daughters or sisters, seeking reward, until Allah enriches them—they will be a shield for him from the Fire.”
Reported by Aḥmad and al-Ṭabarānī.
Hadith 1975 – (Authentic)
Narrated by Jābir (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Prophet (ﷺ) said:
“Whoever has three daughters, shelters them, shows mercy, and supports them—Paradise is guaranteed for him.”
When asked about two, he said: “Even two.”
Reported by Aḥmad, al-Bazzār, and al-Ṭabarānī.